The Friendship

How does it feel to be cool, popular person in school? I often wonder why I, myself, Im a simple kind of girl shytype since elementary school. I belong to the so-called "uncool" people who find themselves around the dark corners of the campus, looking with envy at the coolest, as you flip your hair, show their cute accessories and talk to people on other aqually popular on campus.

It 'hard to accept that I can not be like them. I can not capture the attention just walking down the aisle. I can not be cool because I do not wear the latest trends or the latest mobile phone use. I could not be cool even if my life depended on it.

Being yourself is cool is my mom once said. And 'how to take your clothes do not like your clothes you carry. No matter if the dress is from Paris or ukay-ukay. He also told me that these people are just as cool envy me outside may look calm and poised, but inside their insecurities are eating out, bigtime.

Once in my life I tried to act cool as these people. I copied the way they dress, talk and walk. I get noticed? I did become popular? Duh! of course not! Not only did I prove to be a big joke, I also lost my identity and had also marked the second rate, trying, script, Arrrgghh! I felt like I was in the movie, but not as Shawe Ate .. I was a walking punchline.

So, since then, I attached myself easily. I learned my lesson the hard way. It is not important if they are fresh or not, what matters is how you appreciate and be confident with who you are and what you have.

I also learned that these people are not as cool cool at all. Would not it be boring if everyone watching every move you make? You can not just be yourself at any time. You must ensure that every little action you wiil live up to others expectations of you. You must look pretty all the time or your so-called friends abandon you. These people may seem cool Gooood sooooo ..... but their attitude could be run up and down, thinking about what to do so that their crowns will not be torn out as wannabe cool. Horror! Sounds fear, eh?

Well, maybe just not be so bad. Atleast, I can eat whatever I want without worrying about ruining my figure. I can do anything without those eyes look stupid and, above all, I'm sure I'll be true friends to me through .... thick and thin

Universal connection

Do you believe in coincidence? Or you think there is a destiny involved when things magically 'meet'?

I believe in a phenomenon I've called a 'Universal connection'. Yesterday one of these events for profoundly influenced the mood I was and took me from feeling pretty low and depressed to feeling a joyous epiphany. Let me tell you what happened. You see, I do not believe in random coincidences arbitrary. My understanding is that life is a relationship between free will of humanity combined, and the will of a higher power that I call 'The Great Spirit. "I believe in a paradoxical kind of destiny that is intended by this higher power, but also can be altered by our own decisions we make every moment of everyday. Barriers and opportunities are presented and then we decide whether to take any specific action on the situation.

OK, so yesterday I did not feel very well, I have a history of depression and anxiety and I felt some event that happened to me as rather negative. Well it just so happens that the day before I received an email from my Tai Chi instructor, who had some link related to depression, as they know of my problem. I looked at a site that was some new kind of neurotechnology where listening to a certain type of CD is supposed to send his mind into a state of deep meditation. I am admittedly skeptical about such things as money is of course always had to exchange hands. The good thing about this particular site is that they offer a free sample CD that I ordered.

Anyway, I started to browse the information contained in this site and I came across some quotes from famous people. One that struck me from Rabbi Hillel and as my good friend at work is very interested in Jewish culture and religion, I cut and pasted into Messenger for him to read. As I was feeling down, I left work early and went home to read a little more than a book that I really enjoyed lately. It's called 'Sacred Journey of the peaceful warrior' and is written by Dan Millman. It 's the sequel to a book I really loved the title,' Way of the Warrior quiet '. After reading a chapter or two I came to chapter 17: 'Courage Outcast'. The chapter begins with these words:

If not for myself,
Who will be for me?
If I am only for myself,
What am I?
And if not now, when?
(Hillel, Sayings of the Fathers)

This was the exact quote that I sent to my friend earlier that day! Of all the quotations in the world, out of all the chapters I could read to, out of all the days of my life, this quote came twice in one day! I knew there must be a reason for this to happen so with some help from my friend I did a little research on the internet today. This quote was translated from Hebrew as I now see what has been interpreted in many different ways. This is the general meaning that I have come to believe that words mean:

'If I am not for myself, who will be for me?' regards self-esteem. This means that if you do not believe in the spiritual aspects of your self and love yourself for your god and not just your ego, then others will just see you as someone who has really established its own identity. If you do not love and have confidence in yourself, then others, of course, are difficult to love and trust you.

'If I am only for myself, what am I?' For me it is then spread your love and faith of those around you. It 'important to do things that make you feel better with your self-esteem, but only do things for yourself is selfish. The best way to become a strong and happy person is through service that we can do for others. We understand that others are just another form of ourselves, the 'I' that is intrinsic to all forms of life in the Universe (Great Spirit), and their welfare is as important as ours.

The last line, 'And if not now, when?' refers to the action. It's all well and good to have this knowledge, but is the act of putting into action is of utmost importance. Now is the only time that is very real. The past is past and can never be lived again, while the future has not appeared yet and some of us (while in human form) that will never come. Every second could be our last, so now is the time to put our knowledge and beliefs in the workplace by integrating them into our every movement.

I think these 'connections' universal happen around us every day of our lives. We must focus our attention only to see them, even though they are sometimes so deep that it will only jump right out and slap in the face!

Life Oh Life

If life is a game, we are the players. If love is a novel, we are the writers. If life is a song, we are the lyricists. If life is a game of production, we are the actors. But how do we play? How we can produce a best-selling literary piece? How will we play our masterpiece? And how will we be able to act our life called?

Being a human being is probably the toughest role we ever have. As a composition, has a lot of tones without harmony. As a story, has a lot of twists and denouments. So it all depends on how hard and how much we are willing to play.

As snow crystals, we are different from each other. Each of us is our identity. We have our own set of strengths and weaknesses. We are unique, simple embodiments of the masterpiece of God if we are imperfect, these imperfections make us perfect human beings.

Blame for our human nature tendency to compare ourselves. There is nothing wrong with that comparison, but if the comparison will lead to self-destruction then its probably the biggest mistake we ever made. Why? Simply because the comparison is not healthy for improvement by mutation of a human being to a monster of self-destruction.

Bill Cosby stated "I do not know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone." True enough, you can not please everyone. After all we are not here to please be our co-humans, we are sent here to please. We are human beings, not doormats! Who wants to be when we are only passengers should be the drivers of our lives.

Every living thing has breathed the gift of life, but what makes us human beings as well as our brain is our heart. A cliche goes, follow your heart to the end and if you ever lose your mind you always have to bring back. While following your heart is a risk, its all worth it. I believe that the heart is never wrong, just our interpretation of what it tells us that his wobbles.

"Carpe diem". You never live your life if you can not let go of the past. You can never have fun if you are trapped by the pain of your past. Treasure "today", after all there is a reason why its called "present". The same applies with even fearing for the unknown future. Worry will do you no good and if tomorrow never comes?

Life is a journey. Along the way, you meet all kinds of obstacles toward your goals. But do not experience happiness because everything is in place. We should be happy because if life sucks, we are doing well. After all, not just a question of how many times we fall, but how many times we found ourselves after every fall.

Life is synonymous with love. And 'love that we live. Whether it is love for ourselves or for others. 'S main ingredient of our lives that we could never live without. Do not be desperate in their search for love for it is the number of times we have been wronged we learn to value true love. After all, our success in the discovery of true love is the sweetest achievement in this world.

Finally, know where you're going. Live your dreams. Have direction. After all, not just a question of how many years you live, but as we experienced a year.

I'm not a perfect person. There are a lot of things that I did not. My life is not perfect and neither my principles do not waver. But among these imperfections I'm doing my best to live my life. I do not want a long life, rather than to live a decent life. So what do you think is right. Value your life. Cherish it. After all, we're just going to walk this path once and no one is rich enough to buy back his past.

About happened ...

How do you measure success? Have a wonderful career can mean success. Having a harmonious relationship with someone could say more of a success for some. Success does not necessarily mean your being on top. This definition is not only one of many measures of what the true meaning of the word is a success.

You may not end up being the president or director of the company your work, but you can still succeed with an effective institution employees are connected with you. On the other hand, it could be the most respected and admired your work, but can not be considered a success, because you are having problems with your relationship partner.

I think the true meaning of success is to do something, though not necessarily excel in this, and yet find themselves happily. I think it also depends on your priorities. No man is perfect. Likewise, no man can have everything he or she wanted in life. There will always be failures and frustrations. This is because there are some things that are beyond our control. There are some things that is not the way we wanted them to be.

If you're the career-oriented, success would be bagging the first position and to be highly compensated and demanding respect for others. Conversely, if you're the type of person who sees more importance in your relationship with others, then do not worry if you get promotions as long as you're doing your job and basically have one.

Sometimes we stop for a bit 'and I wonder if it is easy to be successful. Well, it's like asking if it is easy to be happy. I think not. It 'very difficult and is a real struggle. Before you can tell yourself you're happy, you must first know what is that thing that makes you happy first. You must make a choice. Besides, life is all about making decisions. However, the saddest part of all this is that you can easily tell what you really want, because sometimes difficult to know yourself.

There comes a point in your life that you think you know that the path taken is the right one. Consider, for example, can make you happy. But in the end you show regret. You try looking back at the past, then think what could be the other way. What could be Serbian for you the path of others, if that was what you did. But then he realized it was too late.

Sometimes life can be cruel. That's why you have to be smart in making decisions. But sometimes you are so overwhelmed by your emotions or carry one becomes blinded by the real score. Well, if there are people around you that you will understand the implications of the choices you have made. Well, if you have the power to control the future so you can prepare in advance. We are only human beings bound to make mistakes and should learn from them.

Would then carry the memories of your childhood when you do not have to worry about anything even the clothes they should wear to go to church. Because your parents are always there telling you what is good and pleasant it is right and who is not. They are there to decide on our behalf.

However, time flies and we must move forward. We can not be young forever. We must grow and live our lives. We feel pain and experience make us strong. We cry and this time not because our playmates grab our lollipop but cry because we were hurt by someone we loved.

You might wonder why we go through all these difficulties, and because things are not easy. Well, for whatever reason do not know, but one thing remains unchanged. Life is a journey that everyone should take. And since this is a trip there can be pain, but so too are the joys and victories.

Each of us are destined to take its own road. We do not take the same route. Others choose to take the road less traveled, while others do not. Is only a matter of choice on which way you can take for your happiness.

If there's one thing need to know our existence here on earth, is that the goal of life is all about being happy, in whatever effort we have chosen to tread. Life is all about taking a risk and have the courage to pursue and achieve what you want.

Mission in life

It is the biggest word for me: What is your mission in life? I hesitate to capacity with which to develop the right answer covers that I did not dwell much on what my answer is. But I stole all the stars in my years and reduce the parts of my journey as I go that many things make sense now. "And now I'm beginning to see."

I thought that the mission is synonymous with noble and noble to 'integrity' and integrity means to me ... "I do not know." It 's too big a word for my scope.

Recent events in my life gave me an acute observation of many episodes of my life. And I concluded, I must have some kind of gift, with friendship, with a double portion of sensitivity and reflection and a range of emotions the size of Texas to empathize with various kinds of people. The myriad of events, good, bad, ugly, ordinary, extraordinary, all working for me to understand others, thus giving depth to offer friendship. A little 'sense' flexibility 'here, an interesting,' curious' mentality here, the willingness to fail or be ignorant sometimes come in handy sometimes.

Friendship, like writing, it's so easy for me to do. Sometimes it's too easy that even scares me! True! The range of people, young, old, my peers, mothers, teeners, girls, pious people, workers, nannies, yuppies, Lola, children, the disadvantages [because I am one myself], the common tao, even I get surprised comfortable with them ... how I connect easily. I meet people where they are and I do not assume anything. Must be a gift or something ... or I'm Andromeda.

Yet, like so many little things "go right" with me, I'm beginning to appreciate and be privileged to use the gift to share my life away. Now more than ever, I am grateful for all the trials and difficulties I experienced as a person 'different, because I learned to commiserate with others. Or nod in agreement with the troubles of another person. Robin Emily Dickinson verse ...

"If I can help one fainting robin
back to it's nest again ... I do not live
vain ... "

... He has done for me. I understand that does not take much to make a difference or be a difference. Gradually I took pride in being someone's confidante, or an ear when in time of a heart misunderstood, or a voice of reason bulb or advice that was always known, but just need to reaffirm this instance . I learned to my source of joy to give, or share what little I have. No matter how depraved or deprived I feel at that moment.

The simple equation TRUST = LOVE + RESPECT is what I have coined and live in all the reports I do. I respect the golden rule as the wisest rule human existence. But I never claim greatness. Are far from it, far away. I hate to sound holier-than-thou, and it is never my intention to grow up to be one. For me, it's fun to work aside to help others to shine, know that you, I mean, I'm intimately close to someone that nobody else knows, and then someone suddenly flourish and all notices, and know that I was there all seeing the diamond in the rough and rooting for him ... and be left in the skin and hearing someone and be aware of the very soul of him.

What could be more precious than that?

Can not be a pastor, an emissary of God in Africa, or who have a much popular as Sandy Patti and Gary V. or Brad Pitt, but a comfort as I have been comforted by God to use my ugly evidence of my past to shed light on the future of someone, or make a present out of a difficulty, to ensure that a spirit fraying c 'hope is that someone who cares, or trying to understand ... and knowing that someone ... poor, fragile, but a desire for me ... which may also be mission of my life.

Being a star in your life

You have the charactertics to star in your life? What are the features below, or you do not already have? Give each item a rating from 1 to 10 with 10 that you have these charactertics 100%.

1. Believe anything is possible. The universe is your oasis, see everything as in a reach vast horizon. Keep increasing the ceiling every day. Believe in yourself and others will believe in you. Everything is a mirror and others can only be a reflection of that mirror back. When you think it will work, then it will work. Who do you want people to see when they look in your mirror?

2. Know your talents and focus on them to be stars. Talent is not the ability or skill. Your talents are gifts of God This is the word talent, ability and skill of a dictionary and learn the difference. Need to call to ask for it. To find your talent, find models that have constant longing for life, things that have always gravitated a. Define yourself in terms of potential value you bring to the world. Ask: "What gives me a sense of fulfillment burning?"

3. Just like a star in the sky, gas and dust that the star and made it shine. The star only chooses the right gas, dust right to bring in its construction process. There are tons of choices (gas) and elements (dust) that are swirling all around you. Use only the specific types that will help you form your own star.

4. Be selfish when it comes to fueling your talents and your dreams. Do things you like. Are daily calls to actions that make you tingle and smile.

5. The smallest participles provide great results. Great things emerge from the smallest actions. Focus on small things every time that big things are not obvious.

6. Trust your instincts and use completely. Use the comments discernment heavy for others. Never underestimate the competition.

7. rage that burns is the difference in saying you want something and continuously as if you do. It happened only at the level of your anger burn hotter. Anger is not the anger. Rage offers a sense of fulfillment, when accomplished, makes you happy and smile. Rage is a shot past passion and desire. Rage has no fear and failure is not an option. Rage goes out of your comfort zone. Rage is a level of ongoing commitment that makes a superstar. Rage keeps you alert, very aware. Keeps you looking for a new location, especially one that is not blocked. Rage attracts people who think positive. Should prompt action.

8. Make and bake your own breaks. Be prepared for the hearing at any time. Be the President of your own fan club. Who is attracted to you - who are your biggest fans and why? Be the last one standing. Be a great pitcher. Work smart and hard, be prepared and be available.

9. Comfortable with change. Choose to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. It 'hard to stand out when you're inside mounting

10. Turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Setbacks are only configurations for something else.

(C) Copyright Catherine Franz. All rights reserved.

100 Top 2004 Secrets of Success

After all the things I shared with you this year because you have to feel good about yourself, your potential and possibilities to realize your desires, here is a quick list to review your progress. Remember that you are a success no matter what. The fact that you check your results indicate you are ready to climb the next peak.

During this year, with other articles, I shared with you about where to find the light switch and how to turn on the light is, however, you have the time to find and apply. Take a bow for what you have accomplished and for what remains. Do not evaluate if you really gave your full strength, however, is where is the sense of guilt and will hold in 2005.

Here's a quick list of all the secrets of success that I shared with all my avid followers of this year.

1. The road to success begins at the intersection of humility and self-centeredness.

2. Now it must be done to achieve your goals.

3. Being a success is being happy with any aspect of your life you choose.

4. Be yourself.

5. Nobody is born a success, create it.

6. Success is not a city you can drive to - is a state of mind.

7. The four key elements for success are: (1) your talents / strengths, (2) desire (beyond the passion,

(3) the successful team you've added to your repertoire, and

(4) the attraction is the universal law and is something you must help to create.

8. Everyone has strengths. They need to be found and maximized.

9. If you do not integrate, find where to do it, and take this road. Swimming back uphill is not worth it and you will not get extra points because you do.

10. Do you think you deserve the success is not an issue, is a must.

11. Become your own fans first and the other men also.

12. Prepare but do not focus, for adversity, plan for other possibilities.

13. Catch self-destructive behavior when you start immediately.

14. Establish realistic goals that they now feel possible, give them a short time and then keep moving up.

15. Deciding what to do and are willing to exchange what is already in your life to achieve your goals.

16. Learn to see yourself as you want others to see.

17. Start acting like someone who has already achieved their goals.

18. Objective, jump, and run towards the success as hard as you can.

19. Your strengths and talents with all your efforts work.

20. Know your personal values and proceed with them in everything you do.

21. You must have an "out of my face" the desire that as a positive rage.

22. Success is not an accident or are in a lottery ticket, you must create it.

23. Let go of the emotions that life is not fair.

24. Jumps every day.

25. Act as if you start every day with a clean white board and you have the choice to write what you want on it.

26. Strive for a bit, then another and another. Continue to Booking peak after peak.

27. Success is a place you can not achieve alone.

28. Surrounded by a group of believers.

29. Listen and learn from the best in your line of fire.

30. Releases every day and network within your application successful.

31. Losing your dream-busters or other.

32. Always remember you're the captain of your ship.

33. You must take risks to achieve success.

34. Address change with open arms.

35. You do not need anyone's approval to achieve your goals.

36. You can learn to attract everything you want is like creating your own luck

37. Focus on solutions, not problems.

38. The harder you work, the more you will attract.

39. There is a big distinction between attraction and appropriate. Name to ask for it.

40. Turn advantages and disadvantages in all the setbacks and prosperity.

41. Learning to recognize and use opportunities as they arise, next week is too late.

42. Be an optimist, and surround yourself with the surround-sound the same. Mirror mirror in which

43. Learning to listen and follow your intuition and instinct.

44. Be lucky in life. Love yourself and love you all as well. Looking for love in all the right places - inside you - first.

45. Seize the day or someone else will.

46. The success is too important to take seriously.

47. Just create an affinity with others who believe in it.

48. Concerned with your image, it has great importance, even in my pajamas. Do not sleep naked, live nude. Sleep in silk and live in silk.

49. Dress for where you want to be where it was not.

50. Protect your reputation.

51. References Build your goals, nothing less.

52. Realize you are already a pillar of success, but simply the desire to climb a new peak.

53. Create a fan club.

54. Use common sense of balance.

55. Do better than competitors.

56. Eating healthy and exercise daily. Get healthy - physically and mentally.

57. Accept responsibility.

58. Anger is not in the vocabulary of someone successful. Leave in the dictionary.

59. Check in the assumptions on a regular basis and clean, clean, clean them immediately.

60. clean house of all bad habits, not only here and there. Toss them all out with the bathwater.

61. Push yourself to be questioned. Keep stretching; do not even think of anything that does not.

62. You want success, breathe, eat, dream, pray for it, work at it, sacrifice for it, I pray for this to get it.

63. Give your gifts in the highest way possible.

64. Just because people believe something you do not make it so.

65. Do not take your lemons and make lemonade, trade in oranges because you can make more money with orange juice and lemonade.

66. Tunnel vision on what you want to succeed in is a good thing. Learn to say no to anything more often.

67. motivational anger is not afraid when it is powered by optimism.

68. Your strengths and talents the opportunity to build a successful formula.

69. Define yourself in terms of potential - the value you bring to the world in the context of your work, your role or your relationships.

70th. Know everything about your gifts / talents, skills, knowledge, love / hate, beauty, fears, faults, defects and weaknesses.

71. Knowing what people pick up the phone to call you.

72. What naturally seek to do or have? What are your obsessions? What naturally gravitate towards? These are your natural gifts.

73. Know your weaknesses and stay away from them.

74. Understand, accept and embrace who you are - love you and be selfish about it.

75. An aura of confidence attracts attention.

76. Pay the price, or your competitor will.

77. Make your own breaks.

78. Develop a high degree of self-awareness.

79. Package your talents and the money will follow.

80. Be charismatic.

81. Believe anything is possible.

82. Do something special happens every day!

83. Be a success as a human being.

84. Every day is a memory design that moment when memory, and the image will be a complete success in everything you do.

85. The party is today, not a day. Write out the party program and who want to invite. Do not let anyone crash your party.

86. Shine, is perfectly placed to do so.

87. Success time is when your dreams.

88. Become a pitcher good story.

89. Hard work, be prepared and be available.

90. Are you willing to pay the price for success?

91. There will be a time when great hearing must be made, are you ready?

92. Be the last one standing.

93. Never underestimate the competition or do not have any.

94. Luck has some control buttons, you know what they are and learn to control them.

95. Your differences are your successes.

96. Do not fall into the trap of doing things the way others want you to do.

97. Learning to be who you are. And 'different from what you've learned to be, to survive or to please others.

98. Remove a barrier mentality: "If only I could master this, I have more to offer."

99. Write your obituary. Include at least five hits and five special qualities (date not needed).

100. Become a tiger in your tank - go get them tiger the'r.

(C) Copyright 2004, Catherine Franz. All rights reserved.