A question you might have when you read this title is: " because I want to be optimistic? " or even " how could I be upbeat with life so com ' " or " is? who could be an optimist in the world today? And " the world today " can mean to you that you are working in this Office is so desperately short and disorganized, or your boss inept, or terrorism, hunger and violence in the world, your personal inadequacies to face personal challenges, lack of help around the House, your hyper kids two years to two old, spending your days flounder between emotional States of your kids, your spouse, crisis-midlife and aging your mother, or any of the above.
I was reminded of this dilemma, when I was to narrow the ' other morning by a young woman who needed to get to face the fact that the husband had got in his face that morning on " " idiocy watch what Prince Charles when there are more important things going on around the world. By the end of his indictment had filed terrorism, cancer, the crisis of the national budget and the legal system as the most worthy of our attention that were, at the same time, hopelessly ruined. By the end of his tirade, her husband " " pessimism was added to the list, as have " ruined his day ". And, if I leave, I could add to the list ' that his retelling of the history of war was my downfall " ".
Let's face it: it is easier to be cynical. And ' even more realistic to be cynical. If you're the type of person that needs to be right, betting that the project will be a mess, that marriage will not last, and that Bush will make a ' other decision that fail to make the perfect world are safer bets not the reverse. and worthy of our attention that were, at the same time, hopelessly ruined. By the end of his tirade, her husband " " pessimism was added to the list, as have " ruined his day ". And, if I leave, I could add to the list ' that his retelling of the history of war was my downfall " ".
Let's face it: it is easier to be cynical. And ' even more realistic to be cynical. If you're the type of person that needs to be right, betting that the project will be a mess, that marriage will not last, and that Bush will make a ' other decision that fail to make the perfect world are safer bets not the reverse.
And so, if you are negative and pessimistic, you will most often be right. But look what else you will have: you attract to you the people who feel the same way and will join you in a negative spiral downwards, you're ready to blame anything but yourself, leaving you feeling desperate and helpless as angry as well, it wastes a lot of time belaboring the obvious ', and you also yourself stress and the immune system. Negative thinking leads to negative emotions that lead to physiological reactions that can damage your health in the short and long term.
Being optimistic does not mean not be realistic. This means making choices that affect, because they can also be auto-true. If you are sure that your Secretary is going to fail again, it will. We are all influenced by the energy around us, and that can work when someone hovers around them thinks or is " an idiot "? Also, if you are certain you don't succeed, you must that happen to defend your ego, and so what else you can think of, when it's over? You have failed. ou ' negative and pessimistic King, you will most often be right. But look what else you will have: you attract to you the people who feel the same way and will join you in a negative spiral downwards, you're ready to blame anything but yourself, leaving you feeling desperate and helpless as angry as well, it wastes a lot of time belaboring the obvious ', and you also yourself stress and the immune system. Negative thinking leads to negative emotions that lead to physiological reactions that can damage your health in the short and long term.
Being optimistic does not mean not be realistic. This means making choices that affect, because they can also be auto-true. If you are sure that your Secretary is going to fail again, it will. We are all influenced by the energy around us, and that can work when someone hovers around them thinks or is " an idiot "? Also, if you are certain you don't succeed, you must that happen to defend your ego, and so what else you can think of, when it's over? You have failed.
Realism would say-if really taken the wrong person, don't be a victim. Take care of the problem. If you have hired a person who, as everyone has good and bad days, he works in an imperfect system, should try to read your mind and welcoming guests actually difficult at times, and overwork, don't play the victim-watch and see what you can do to make things work better, assuming (optimistically) that this is possible, i.e., things will never be perfect, but can generally be improved, and you are the ' to do so. You could start, in this case, with your attitude and expectations. In fact, if you want to make the world a better place, begins with the Secretary of " world ". Understand?
Pragmatically speaking-that is, if you want to work in the real world-an optimistic vision works better. Gives you the power to do ' things happen, because it gives positive emotional energy. Functionally speaking, it is wiser to be optimistic. L ' optimism is a tool, so. If it is still possible that the voice in your head that says it all stinks, you can begin to see what you can do things as they are, some of which, Yes, " " stinks, but not all.
If you're plagued by suffering terrorism and tsunamis, for example, set aside a time figuring out what you can do about them. You can quickly realize the dilemma of the leaders of the world that actually have to do this on a large scale, but there are also small things you can do in your world just to correct these evils. Call your local Red Cross. Have been waiting for your call. NKS she or he is an idiot " "? Also, if you are certain you don't succeed, you must that happen to defend your ego, and so what else you can think of, when it's over? You have failed.
Realism would say-if really taken the wrong person, don't be a victim. Take care of the problem. If you have hired a person who, as everyone has good and bad days, he works in an imperfect system, should try to read your mind and welcoming guests actually difficult at times, and overwork, don't play the victim-watch and see what you can do to make things work better, assuming (optimistically) that this is possible, i.e., things will never be perfect, but can generally be improved, and you are the ' to do so. You could start, in this case, with your attitude and expectations. In fact, if you want to make the world a better place, begins with the Secretary of " world ". Understand?
Pragmatically speaking-that is, if you want to work in the real world-an optimistic vision works better. Gives you the power to do ' things happen, because it gives positive emotional energy. Functionally speaking, it is wiser to be optimistic. L ' optimism is a tool, so. If it is still possible that the voice in your head that says it all stinks, you can begin to see what you can do things as they are, some of which, Yes, " " stinks, but not all.
If you're plagued by suffering terrorism and tsunamis, for example, set aside a time figuring out what you can do about them. You'll quickly realize the dilemma of the leaders of the world that actually have to do this on a large scale, but there are also small things you can do in your world just to correct these evils. Call your local Red Cross. Have been waiting for your call.
In the MEANTIME, keep your life going in a positive direction, with optimism. If you are certain that you can't be happy until all the evils of the world were addressed, will be a long waiting time. You will also fail to address what you can deal with, because of the more complained that great things are outside your control.
If you want to turn your attitude, your face in a ' the other direction. To focus on what is right of things does not mean that you do not know how things go wrong, or are the wrong way. It means that you're making a choice about your portion of the world, your responsibility in it, the prospects.
Helps " the world " If you go on a tirade of early morning and dumps all your frustration on your spouse? Of course not. Remember that your spouse and they are also a part of the world ". " from an objective, the young above has a good job, a nice house, plenty of food, clothing and need, and a beautiful wife who was cheerful, beautiful, and dressed to go to his work for the day. This is a scene half the people in this can never have.
Optimism means, in the words of Faulkner, not real killing " l ' unreal. " when this young man had was real, and it was great. Then he put in his head, and dragged on all the reasons that he could think of to be unhappy; reasons that exist and are available to all of us, but also the satisfaction of immediate reality. And ' almost like he is proud to be able to understand that there are evils in the world, as if it was only one who knew and are interested in this subject.