Worrying? Who is not these days? There is such a great choice of things to worry about - terrorism, the economy, the rising cost of health insurance - and then there's our list of more personal - the difficult teenager, an elderly parent, who is ill, the threat of being downsized, the hard to find a good job.
What we choose to say much to worry us, but the concept of concern seems to have been accepted life. I'm reminded of my first day internship in a shelter for battered women, when I was getting a degree in psychology. "You will not find a lot of neurotic worrying down here," the supervisor said. "It's put food on the table."
What is "neurotic" worrying? Well, it's a bit 'as ever in the wake of a disturbing and moving levels and directions. Worrying about things you're conflicted about. Daydreaming and inventing things to worry about. It 'an oversimplification, but "real concern is when the car stopped on the track rail and a train is barreling toward you." Product "is worrying worrying that you never find a partner because you're over 30 or worrying that You 'll Never find a job.
Sometimes we just get in the habit of worry. For example you may wake up and start searching mind for what you're supposed to be worrying about that day. Even after having a dream can trigger this. "I had this wonderful dream about my mother" someone told me, "and woke up so happy, but did not last long. I immediately switched over to worrying about how unhappy she is now and what to do about it."
Well, it's one thing if you worry about something fundamental - in the case of being unemployed, for example, but quite another if you're just in the habit of worrying and you do not feel good if you are not, or rather go after as a part of your mental and emotional life.
This can be changed and is part of your development of emotional intelligence. The concern is the emotional and mental part. You start the emotion of concern for what they're thinking or, especially sad, you're in a mindset of concern and initiate a scan of your computer to find things to worry about. And 'quite logical that if you are determined to worry, you can find something to worry about, but we are not always rational about these things.
Emotions are valuable to us because they give us information, and in this case, your concern that tells you that there is a legitimate problem that needs to be addressed, but consider this analogy. It 'was often bandied about by the media, and is a kind of well-known fact that the stock market does not like uncertainty. We have often said that once the election was over, if it went well, the market would settle and start climbing.
Well, we do not work well with uncertainty either. Once a decision is made, we can settle and start climbing. Worrying is as yet in that state of indecision. After all, we can not always be sure of any outcome.
If you think, what ever we worry often come true, and things that really there are things that blow could never conceive. 911 would be a good example of this. As we have conceived such a thing happen? There could have been a United States person awake at night worrying that a terrorist plane would crash into the World Trade Center, but I bet there were at least 100 people in New York City at the time worried about a presentation that had to give that day that never occurred because of the terrible event that nobody could have foreseen.
And remember all the recommendations that were made to deal with 911? One of them was to do something to help, to choose one thing to do to help others or help the cause, and then relieve that feeling powerless. It was acting.
Do not make a habit of worry. If there is a challenge in your life, face it and do your best to tackle it. You can borrow strength from the challenges you faced before you. If you worry about something that can not do anything, you're wasting time and energy that could be positively focused elsewhere. If you are worrying for fear, in search of possible candidates for this task, there is something much better could you do with your mind.
The first step is to become aware of your preoccupation own models. The second step is knowing that you have a choice. Then you can learn to divert themselves from the senseless concern that steals life energy and pleasure.
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