" people with small minds talk about other people. People with average minds discuss events. People with great minds discuss ideas " (anonymous) and people with a big heart to talk about feelings.
Dr. Phil has done it again-come with only the phrase just descriptive. On his show the other day, has ' in front of a young man who says: " you're just an idiot who loves to make arrogant someone else face and bark "
I needed this descriptive phrase because I was in an Office, l ' other day where one of the main did just that-he got in someone else's face, and bark. Every time. Throughout the day. This was his sole modus operandi.
It worked. But in what way?
I was reminded of this because my sister and I wrote that she had had a terrible day. He had tried to fix a faulty keyboard, ", said during the ' listening to my neighbor's barking dog every 3 1/2 minutes. "
My dog poor themselves, as it became of age (and lived 17 years) would become easily confused, and if frightened or angry, barked every few seconds, at regular intervals, until it became hoarse. She would do to my house if left outside of what would be his " too long " (well, of course, we did not), but when I had to leave to Kennel when I made a journey, the Kennel owner, said he had done this for 24 hours (heartbreaking). However, when she would have done this, I replied. While compassionate to his condition (blind, nearly deaf, very old and very popular), was one of the more irritating things that I had to endure, and I would do anything to stop it. Mrs. Kennedy thought similarly. He ended up taking my dog at home with her. mingle easily, and if frightened or angry, barked every few seconds, at regular intervals, until it became hoarse. She would do to my house if left outside of what would be his " too long " (well, of course, we did not), but when I had to leave to Kennel when I made a journey, the Kennel owner, said he had done this for 24 hours (heartbreaking). However, when she would have done this, I replied. While compassionate to his condition (blind, nearly deaf, very old and very popular), was one of the more irritating things that I had to endure, and I would do anything to stop it. Mrs. Kennedy thought similarly. He ended up taking my dog at home with her.
Unfortunately, there are people who do the same thing only with words. It has the ' immediate effect of making them what they want, but with EQ, we are always looking for the long-term situation, Yes? Everyone has thrown the ' man what he wanted, because it would have done everything to get rid of him. Their main objective was to avoid him at all costs. They coasted around him in the Hall, turned and walked away from the ' the other hand when I heard get passed around documents, rather than go into his Office, left if he was headed their way, and even warned others, i.e., " alert " boss.
No wonder I discovered that he had divorced 15 years.
He really barked orders ", " and barked all the rest. And ' this effective leadership? This effective and ' related? Is this the way to " be "? No, it isn't. He had some good ideas, but as my dog aging poor, the main reaction of all was to eliminate noise as quickly as they could. He lost to obtain the information he needed, because no one wanted to risk being around that noise. th you.
Unfortunately, there are people who do the same thing only with words. It has the ' immediate effect of making them what they want, but with EQ, we are always looking for the long-term situation, Yes? Everyone has thrown the ' man what he wanted, because it would have done everything to get rid of him. Their main objective was to avoid him at all costs. They coasted around him in the Hall, turned and walked away from the ' the other hand when I heard get passed around documents, rather than go into his Office, left if he was headed their way, and even warned others, i.e., " alert " boss.
No wonder I discovered that he had divorced 15 years.
He really barked orders ", " and barked all the rest. And ' this effective leadership? This effective and ' related? Is this the way to " be "? No, it isn't. He had some good ideas, but as my dog aging poor, the main reaction of all was to eliminate noise as quickly as they could. He lost to obtain the information he needed, because no one wanted to risk being around that noise.
One of the suggestions that I recently read in an article of leadership was never raise your voice ". " Certain voice tones and rhythms of talking to other people turn out, and if we're focusing on things that annoy us, what are the ideas of other people have to find a happy home with us?
At best, the other person will ' ' to ' words to what you say, again, just to get you out of their face and ' stop the barking. We do the mental equivalent of ' put your hands over your ears.
Only when we relate with the feelings of a person we need to link ', and only when we connect we can really influence. Our enthusiasm for a ' idea, or about its usefulness for the well-being of another (compassion) is much more likely effect of a ' the other person and to influence their behavior of a ' analysis of a ' strictly intellectual idea or jarring of forcing opinions upon others, or even of " give " orders.
Even sadder if we are in a position of power over others and ' must ' listen to us, at least for some time. This applies to parents, lovers, colleagues, executives, managers, and none of us at any time. Think l ' last time were a captive audience " " for the person next to you on the plane. rt ".
No wonder I discovered that he had divorced 15 years.
He really barked orders ", " and barked all the rest. And ' this effective leadership? This effective and ' related? Is this the way to " be "? No, it isn't. He had some good ideas, but as my dog aging poor, the main reaction of all was to eliminate noise as quickly as they could. He lost to obtain the information he needed, because no one wanted to risk being around that noise.
One of the suggestions that I recently read in an article of leadership was never raise your voice ". " Certain voice tones and rhythms of talking to other people turn out, and if we're focusing on things that annoy us, what are the ideas of other people have to find a happy home with us?
At best, the other person will ' ' to ' words to what you say, again, just to get you out of their face and ' stop the barking. We do the mental equivalent of ' put your hands over your ears.
Only when we relate with the feelings of a person we need to link ', and only when we connect we can really influence. Our enthusiasm for a ' idea, or about its usefulness for the well-being of another (compassion) is much more likely effect of a ' the other person and to influence their behavior of a ' analysis of a ' strictly intellectual idea or jarring of forcing opinions upon others, or even of " give " orders.
Even sadder if we are in a position of power over others and ' must ' listen to us, at least for some time. This applies to parents, lovers, colleagues, executives, managers, and none of us at any time. Think l ' last time were a captive audience " " for the person next to you on the plane.
Good EQ means having a clue about the feelings of another person, ' and knowing the ' effect you have, and, I add, etiquette and common sense demand of modesty that the person must listen, the more thoughtful you should be in the delivery and content of what you are saying.
Do not go any stronger. In other words, do not send a cannon when a fly swatter would do. And not annoy and bore others.
There are two types of people who do-those who do not care, and those who don't know they're doing. EQ means knowing the ' effect they have on others. This is to look at occuring nonverbals in a meeting. Noting if the person you're talking becomes restless (change of position, losing contact with eyes, yawn) bored (eyes roll back in your head, restlessness, yawning), angry (body straining posture, folded arms), or digusted (curled lip, squinting and/or inevitable).
Note that almost every verbal Communicator can mean several things, and sometimes it can mean opposite things. For example, a person who shake when be interviewed " ", can do so either because they are lying or because they are a person that has the hyper-honest fear. Any ' ' signal depends on the Group date and context.
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